Thinking long and hard…what’s the best date you’ve ever been on? Are you married? How long have you been married? Do you still have date night now that you are married?
My family and I just recently got back from a Family Retreat at Great Wolf Lodge in Grapevine, Texas, where we had a Chaplain talk to us about our marriage and things like that. One of the books that he recommended (and you all know how much I LOVE books :)), was called, The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. Have you read this book? I think the one on the link that I listed is a bigger book than the one that I have but the lesson is the same…everyone has a different way that they express love, so even though you might be wondering what is going on with your spouse and why are they frustrating you so much…there is a method to the madness. *smiles*
For example, in my case, when I think about how I show my husband that I love him (not that way people get your mind out of the gutter *laughs*), is by conversation. I’m sure some of you are rolling your eyes at this, but it’s true. I try to set aside time to listen to my husband and spending quality time together. (Not when both of us are on the coach watching TV and checking Facebook – and one of you just thought, “How does she see me?”) What I mean is sitting down and having a real conversation with my husband.
Do you remember when you first started dating your significant other? Do you remember how special and wonderful it was just to get the chance to spend time with them talking? Well, that’s what I mean when I say that I try to set aside time for us to talk. And it’s not easy. With both of us working, I know that sometimes the last thing that I want to do at the end of the day is anything other than getting dinner going and crashing on the living room sofa, and maybe catch an episode of The Good Wife.
So, with quality time in mind, I downloaded a list of questions that we could ask ourselves..something like a writing prompt for conversations asking questions like, “What’s your favorite memory of us?” or “What was the first music album you owned?”
****** Wait a minute…first music album…I have to share*****
Real quick, I wanted to share (knowing full well that I open myself up to public mockery), the first album that I owned was the soundtrack to the movie, The Adams Family Values.
I don’t know if you remember this movie or the music from it, but just in case, here’s a link:
–Let the laughing commence…
*****Okay, back to topic*******
So, basically, my husband and I are going back and forth talking like we did when we first met and it was great! Really. (I still see some of you rolling your eyes.) I’m finishing that book, but was wondering along this same line…have any of you had an experience like this? Have you read a book that changed your marriage? What kind of book (aside from Women Are From Mars) would you suggest?
How about inexpensive date night suggestions? How do you make it work?